Don't boys need home training too? Let me rephrase: don't boys DESERVE home training too? Where else will they learn to be responsible if not the home?
Just thinking out loud: society puts undue pressure on the girl-child. It seems so crucial for her to be a certain way. And I'm not saying it isn't important for a girl to be well cultured and groomed. But where my empathy for her comes in is where I observe that the boy-child doesn't go through such pressure. Quite frankly, I think this is distorted. If one sex must undergo pressure to be a certain way, it should be the male. O yes! He is the future head of the family, and according to Christianity, he is the priest of the home. And the responsibility of loving the wife and presenting her to himself without blemish rests on his shoulders. The man's supposed responsibility is so imperative, and yet boys aren't raised in a way that reflects the seriousness of said responsibility. Thus, how do you expect them to realize the criticalness of their roles in society? Now, is it a surprise why we have so many deadbeats around? Men who can't even manage their homes are the ones left with the responsibility to manage our country and resources, what do you think the outcome will be? In a lot of homes, boys can't do something as simple as take their dishes to the kitchen sink after eating, even if someone else will wash them. That's where the irresponsibility begins from. And sadly, in most homes, such fecklessness isn't greeted with as much contempt as a girl who doesn't know how to cook or clean is greeted with. In fact, such a girl will be rebuked and made to feel useless because she can't do specific things in the home. Once again, don't get me twisted, I'm all for good home training, but my point is, when it's focused on one sex alone, the end result will most definitely be cataclysmic for society.
Secondly, I've observed that one thing so many parents seem to take for granted is the fact that if all of them focus all their energy on the girl-child and neglect the boy in terms of proper upbringing, the implication is, they'll only be grooming a fantastic wife for a useless man, while producing men who are nothing but potential heartaches for some good innocent girl somewhere (all things being equal.) This is just foul and needs to be corrected. Men need to feel and understand the weight of that responsibility while we're yet boys. You can't bend a dry tree, so our grooming needs to be done at a tender age. Don't raise a son that'll go and become a jailer to somebody else's daughter, abeg. Let your boys know that there's much more to being a man than provision alone (even that one na wahala for some.) What if the woman can also provide, what then is your use? Being a man is deeper than mundane capabilities alone. Such are the virtues boys should be taught as children, or forget it; changing their character and personality when their bear-bear done dey touch ground no go easy at all.
Lastly, think about this: if real men governed this country, I know there's no way our situation could have been this bad, because a real man only knows how to put first the people he's responsible for. A real man knows how to get things done. A real man strives to keep his promises. A real man is an achiever, very proactive and not passive. A real man takes responsibility for shortcomings, rather than make flimsy excuses. Etcetera. Indeed, all these and more are signs of an authentic man. No be so? But unfortunately, today what we mostly have are human beings with male genitalia and deep voices without any character, raising their shoulders higher than they can afford, and calling themselves leaders when they don't even know the meaning of the word... Pitiful! Do you think their selfish, corrupt, and wicked nature was formed overnight?
May God help us to correct our ways where we've erred, so we can begin to produce bona fide men and women of good repute. That's the only way our country can generate good leaders that'll govern well... Because like sister charity, responsibility and leadership really begin at home.
(FYI, though there are some exceptions, this is mostly a generalization to reflect an on-going trend in our society.)
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